The Nature of Oscillation between extremes in Life

The experience that Reality always brings you the other extreme of your current experience is very normal. Oscillation between two extreme polarities is often seen as a universal law or an experience one cannot get away from. This is not true.

For example: You experience intense intimacy with someone else only to feel the intense need for space or solitude later. The experience of intensity and unease doesn't feel like a natural flow.

This happens because this sector of your Reality is trying to hold two different fractals at the same time, instead of creating a fractal that holds them both.

A fractal is based on a core assumption/knowing and creates ripple effects through perception and behavior.

Maybe you know that intimacy is necessary and valuable, and you also know that autonomy and personal freedom is important.

You might see these two knowings as opposites, thereby having difficulty integrating them. You end up oscillating between two extremes: Loosing yourself in relationships and disconnecting in loneliness.

The solution lies in merging these two fractals into a higher order fractal, for example: "My deepest relationships support my autonomy and freedom."

Oscillation between extreme states of intimate highs and loneliness will then even out into one harmonious flow, instead of creating the polarity dance of chasing and avoiding.

If one fractal seems skewed and untrue, it could be better to investigate its validity and drop it, allowing the other fractal to govern Reality Creation instead.

For example: You believe you are in need of deep connection. You also believe you don't deserve intimacy, that you're not worthy of it. In this case you will oscillate between two extremes or completely stagnate in indecision and apathy, one fractal blocking the other from creating.

When, after neutral inspection, you start knowing worth as inherent and self-created, your belief of not deserving intimacy naturally drops and relationships harmonize. Neutral inspection happens when peace is valued above extreme experience.

You can play all instruments in the orchestra of Reality if you feel the whole song as it's playing in Real Time.

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